Escape your prison of loneliness; the door is wide open.
There are some things in life that you just don’t have much control over; however what you make out of that is a personal decision. You can choose what store you want to go to but you can’t guarentee you’ll get the best parking spot. You can love your job and still be let go. You can have a favorite pair of socks and by gosh one of them can still get lost in the wash. In life, sometimes- and sometimes more than other times things happen that are outside of our realm of control.
One thing you cannot control is people. You can pray for others, talk to them, give them advice, persuade them but you can’t make them do anything they don’t themselves choose to do.Whether it be a mother, father, spouse, friend, etc. You can’t make that person decide not to move. You can’t make that person stay. You can’t make that person come back. You can’t make that person love you. You can’t make that person make you a priority. You can’t make that person want you. All these things are hard to accept and to grasp at times but its crucial that we do. However, what we can control is how we allow all those things to affect us. The definition of loneliness is “To be affected with a depressing feeling of being alone”. Not that you are alone but that you feel alone. To live an abundant, fulfilling life as Christ wants us to have we have to guard our hearts. We cannot control others and we can’t control some situations in our lives but we can control how we let them affect us; by that we choose to be consumed by loneliness or be accompanied by Gods comfort.
Loneliness feels like a prison, an empty prison; a prison you are locked up in by yourself. In the state of feeling lonesome it is very easy to be overwhelmed with thoughts that “no one genuinely cares” or “nobody loves me” but these are both lies. Our adversary, the devil loves to make people feel isolated. The devil is the father of lies ..[John 8:44]
“We cannot control others and we can’t control some situations in our lives but we can control how we let them affect us; by that we choose to be consumed by loneliness or be accompanied by Gods comfort.”
So to stomp on the lies the enemy tells and to break free of your cell in a prison of loneliness you must first acknowledge the following truths.
1.You are not alone.
I know that is seemingly a very cliché thing to say. You may or may not know this already but- Jesus is always with you. However there’s a difference between having head knowledge of something and it truly sinking into your heart. You have to have more than just knowledge of this but you have to take it by faith; you have to believe it. In good times, in not so good times He is with you. It’s knowing that when you have nothing you still have everything because ofGod. “Be strong and of a good courage, fear not, nor be afraid of them: for the Lord thy God, he it is that doth go with thee; he will not fail thee, nor forsake thee.”-Deuteronomy 31:6 [NKJV]
2. Jesus can fill any void.
I know the painfully all-to familiar sinking feeling you get in your chest when you miss someone. I see the way you hang your head just longing for someone to hug you and tell you every thing is going to fine. I understand the tears you shed and the way your body trembles in the midnight hour when you feel like you have no one. However I now challenge you. I challenge you to give all that to God and search your heart. search or pray for God to reveal to you why you are fighting off the feeling of loneliness. search to find any holes in your heart that cause you to feel alone. Know that Jesus is a father to the father-less and a friend to the friend-less. whatever void your heart is subject to, know that Jesus can fill it. All other fills are temporary but Jesus fills in a way that we will never thirst again. “but whoever drinks of the water that I shall give him will never thirst. But the water that I shall give him will become in him a fountain of water springing up into everlasting life.”- John 4:14 [NKJV]
3. That prison you find yourself in, that cell of loneliness; the door is wide open.
Lastly you must acknowledge that “who the son sets free is free indeed.” John 8:36 [NKJV] The lonely prison you feel trapped in, theres a way out. God doesn’t intend for His people to be bound and locked up but that they be free. The door to your lonely cell is wide open and you can freely walk out the instant you decide to stand on these truths. Loneliness is a feeling that we all experience from time to time but it’s not what truth says about you.
“The door to your lonely cell is wide open and you can freely walk out the instant you decide to stand on these truths.”
Choose today to stop telling yourself you are a prisoner of loneliness. Choose today to get up and walk out of that cell. the door is wide open.